I do not unfortunately, but i know (depending on where you live) there are usually websites to help find LGBT health care (like rainbowhealthontario.ca for ontario) and from there you should be able to find a number of clinics that do trans health care. 

granted not all clinics that do trans care list on websites like that, so tracking down health care can be a bit of an adventure, but usually if you call a clinic that doesnt have what you need they can at least refer you to other clinics they know of in the area.

when trying to find a gender therapist or doctor who is nonbinary-inclusive it’s perfectly ok to just call and ask. you’re allowed to ask prerequisite questions for anyone you’re considering taking on as a healthcare provider. so you would ask things like “have you ever worked with nonbinary/genderqueer patients before” or ask them their opinions on nonbinary transition and stuff like that. if they dont already know what nonbinary or genderqueer means (a lot of them use “genderqueer” primarily) than they probably aren’t the right person for you. 

I wish i could give you something that would save you going through a bunch of online listings and calling a bunch of clinics, but unfortunately there still arent a lot of organized nonbinary-specific resources like that.

good luck!

-newt

There is no right answer here, as I don’t know what your work situation is like or where you live. if and how you decide to come out will really depend on your circumstances and how sensitive your employer is to LGBTQ issues, but you have to remember that safety comes first.

The first thing you will need to do is research your local laws. If you are living in a state or area that has laws to protect trangender workers than it may be possible for you to socially transition at work and ask your employer to use a different name and pronouns. I’m not sure what you mean by “unconventional” pronouns, but I think for transitioning in the work place it would be easiest if you had a binary pronoun set you preferred (either he or she), or if both of these bother you I would stick with “they”. For many people even using gender-neutral pronouns at all will be a learning curve, so I would get them on board with that before asking them to learn new language. People can be very resistant to anything new or unfamiliar.

I wish I had a more reassuring answer for you but unfortunately being out in all circumstances as a nonbinary person is not always feasible. most of society doesn’t even know we exist, and so are even less willing to make accommodations than they would even in the case of binary trans people, who are more specifically associated with transgender laws. nonbinary recognition is kind of new to the trans rights campaign, and although now officially recognized in the WPATH standards of care, it will take a while for society to follow suit.

In the circumstance that your employer is particularly queer-friendly (you live in a queer neighbourhood or your employer or business has declared itself an ally) I’d say go for it. I’d love to know that there are nonbinary people out there who are able to live and work as the people they are and would love to follow your story through this process, as it’s something not many people have experience with.

Regardless of your circumstances this will involve quite a bit of tact and feeling out how you will be received. You may not be able to lose your job, but if your employer is not receptive it could make working there very stressful and unhealthy for you. It wouldnt hurt to consult with a gender counsellor or the human resources department of your business if it has one. It’s easier to go into a job as a trans person than it is to transition at work, so if being open about your identity in this aspect of your life is very important to you it’s something to consider that it might be worth waiting until you get a new job.

But like I said, all of this is 100% dependant on the mindset of your employer and local community, which could vary from friendly all the way to downright hostile. Feel it out, educate yourself on your laws, and if you decide coming out is something you feel safe doing than make sure to equip yourself with as much information and resources to provide them as possible. The better they understand your situation the more likely they’ll be to accommodate you.

I hope this was helpful in some way and I wish you the best of luck in navigating this.

-Newt

Unfortunately I don’t know that much about the origins of “boi”. The most I can tell you is that it is a term created by PoC for PoC, but I don’t know for sure exactly where it originated. My first instinct is to say that it is a term created by the Black community, but don’t take my word on that.

If any PoC followers know the origins of the word “boi”, please feel free to chime in!

~ Micah

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The word “boi” is considered to be part of AAVE (African American Vernacular English), a lot of which is based in African creole dialects, so it’s considered a culturally-specific term to African Americans.

-Newt