femqle:

being a gay trans woman in wlw fandoms is so weird because like, personally i want to just forget about all the terrible shit that every cis celeb or idol and enjoy the connection to other gay girls and not have to feel like an outside or alone. theres like the temptation to forget your politics and just try to enjoy the fandoms for what they are. i know i really try to just ignore the transmisogyny i see when i first enter a fandom

but like, you fucking cant at all. because there’s so much transmisogny embedded everywhere. and its in the shitty g!p fanfiction and the assumptions about how any lesbian couple might have sex. its in telling trans women to calm down and not fight all the time and just let things go. its in cis wlw assumptions that THEY’RE way of being gay/loving women is the standard and should be treated as such. its in describing women and female characters as soft/small/delicate and the fetishization of a girl with a dick.  like i would just love not to have to think about it at all but its too big to be ignored at this point. 

but it blows my mind when people accuse trans women of looking for mistakes and moments where their cis idols fucked up. like i fucking wish kate mckinnon didnt hold such terrible beliefs about trans people. that would make everything so much easier. i wish it for all the big names like aubrey plaza and gillian anderson but its too late. they revealed what they really think and we have to deal with it. otherwise you shouldnt have any “no twerfs” shit in your sidebar.

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